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<h1 style="text-align: center;">Deaf Guy Game</h1>
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<p>Hey everyone, check it out! I beat Roissy to a topic!</p>
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<p>I’ll try to be concise, I don’t consider myself to be a bad looking guy and I’ve been told that I befriend girls pretty easily. But I’ve only had one serious girlfriend, I’ve only had a handful of dates and nothing of those led to anything serious. One of my problems seems to be wrapping up the deal and getting in a relationship. Some of my concerns are that sometimes I feel that my deafness plays a huge role in meeting and dating girls because there’s still the social stigma of deaf people being “handicapped”. And quite frankly, the language barrier is monstrous. That’s a reason why I generally don’t bother with girls that won’t learn sign language. Any feedback on this would be appreciated.</p>
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<p>So the first thing you need to do is ask yourself why you want a relationship.</p>
<p>I don’t think your problem is wrapping up the deal and getting into a relationship, I honestly think your problem (from the brief bit I’ve read) is that you are viewed by women as ‘puppy dog’ cute and not ‘gnarly, I want to fuck his brains out Biker’ cute, if that makes sense. “I’ve been told that I <strong>befriend </strong>girls pretty easily” is honestly a red flag. If you’re friends with them, you aren’t dating them or sleeping with them. Contrary to what polite society and Nicholas Sparks books will tell you, it is very hard to bridge from friendship to dating or sex.</p>
<p><strong>You need to establish a goal in your mind with every girl you meet. Either date, sex, or friendship – but you have to pick one.</strong></p>
<p>The next thing you need to do is lock your <a href="https://www.echttekst.nl/blog/lifestyle/rapid-online-dating-success-with-deep-inner-game-mastery/">inner game</a> and get rid of that big limiting thought about your deafness. I know the language barrier is monstrous – but it isn’t insurmountable. Think of it in these terms: At the end of the day you both speak English.</p>
<p>This is going to sound tough, and it’s going to sound like I don’t know what I’m talking about because I’m not deaf and there is no way I could even remotely understand what it’s like for you – Just trust me. I may not know a lot about deaf culture, and I may not know your specific thoughts on the challenges you face – but I know women.</p>
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<p>One of the things old school pick up guys will tell you is that you need to have a prop to lock a girl in. It will force her to stay around and interact with you (She can’t leave if she’s wearing your hat). Another thing you’ll hear a lot from players is that you have to get her to trust you – she’ll never commit to sex <em>or</em> a relationship if she doesn’t trust you (this is called rapport building). These two things are a part of a third distinct, yet very closely related process: You have to get her invested in the interaction. She has to be a part of building the relationship with you, so that she will want to stick around (people are much less likely to abandon things they help create – captain, ship, all that). Finally, and I mention this last even though it’s step one, you have to have a good approach that will get her interacting with you right away so you can showcase your charm.</p>
<p>You are thinking to yourself, <em>how will I ever be able to do that with random women in/on the (subway/bar/bookstore/street/café), I’m deaf!</em></p>
<p>And I’m telling you that you have the exact perfect tool for game: You’re deaf.</p>
<p>The thing I’m about to ask you to do might be offensive, it might be hard for you to do. I don’t care, because I can promise this will help tremendously.</p>
<h3>DEAF GAME</h3>
<p>Get a notepad, ruled paper with a spiraled spin across the top:</p>
<p>On the front, in a contrasting and bright color, write the words, “Hello, I’m Deaf”. Make sure to always carry around two markers with you – one for you, and one in a girly color for her (pink or some kind of light purple color).</p>
<p>Assuming you’re in a bar, you’re actually at an advantage because you wont have to fight over the noise to hear her. Also, she’ll be less receptive to other guys trying to get in on your action because she has to focus on you harder than she normally would.</p>
<h3>THE PLAN</h3>
<p>Here’s what you do:</p>
<p>Keeping your standard game plans in mind, pick a girl you think is cute and approach her. It doesn’t matter if she speaks ASL or if you think you have a chance with her – the only thing you need to worry about is whether or not you think she’s attractive.</p>
<p>Approach her.</p>
<p>Tap her on the shoulder, touch her on the arm, wave – just get her attention. She will turn to you and say something, just show her the front of your note pad (make sure you’re smiling). After she’s read it, pull out your marker and open your pad and write, “Here, I have a girly marker for you.” Show it to her, and then hand her the pink marker.</p>
<p>Understand that she will most likely not believe you and try and test you to make sure you’re deaf – I say go with it. Or, she might actually speak ASL and pull out sign language – in which case run with it (tease her, be fun and charming, etc).</p>
<p>Once she knows you’re deaf, you have the advantage: she now has to communicate to you through a medium of your choosing – the pad. This forces her to invest into the interaction by putting thought into her words before she writes them. It locks her down with a prop because she can’t steal your pad or marker. It builds trust rapidly because you have to immediately invest a great deal of trust in her (large amounts of immediately placed trust tends to generate trust reciprocally). And, quite frankly, it gives you an opener that I’m extremely jealous of because it will yield a great conversation most every single time.</p>
<h3>SOME TIPS</h3>
<p><strong>Never let her see what you’re writing on the pad.</strong> This will help build mystery around your responses and make it fun and engaging for her. Only show her what you’ve written after you’ve written it.</p>
<p><strong>Play games.</strong> You can do a lot with the note pad. Get her to draw pictures of her work/school subject/hobby/pet and see if you can guess what it is – and vice versa. Play hangman with your name. Get creative with it! There are a lot of things you could do with this.</p>
<p><strong>Teach her things</strong> – write a word and then show her how to sign it. Use your hand to position and manipulate hers, this will allow you to break the kino barrier and initiate some physical touch with her.</p>
<p><strong>Joke and have fun. </strong>Cross out stuff she writes, and playfully write different things, followed by “I fixed that for you.” E.g.:</p>
<p><em>I really like <del>creed</del> terrible music. I fixed it for you.</em></p>
<p><strong>Always go for the number.</strong> Every single time. The best way to ask is to just write “<em>Your #:” </em>and hand her the pad so she’ll write it down. After you get the number, though, stick around and keep talking to her – try and keep the interaction going.</p>
<p><strong>Smile. </strong>Make sure you’re smiling and having fun with the whole thing. And just know that you may get shut down every once in a while – it happens to all of us and is just a part of the game. Another thing smiling averts is that overwhelming feeling. She might feel a bit overwhelmed at first and not quite know how to respond. You’ll need to have a strong frame and <strong>lead her through the interaction</strong>, show her that you aren’t worried about being deaf, so she shouldn’t be worried either.</p>
<p>I know I didn’t really focus on getting a girlfriend, but the first step in dating someone is meeting someone to date. I would say you have an advantage there. Good luck with everything and let me know how things work out for you.</p>
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