<h1 style="text-align: center;"><strong>The Power and Limits of Positivity in Dating Game</strong></h1>
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<p><a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/">The Loveawake blog</a> had a good post on the power of thought, reinforcing what dating game suggests as one of our most powerful weapons in our arsenal – a tool that is both internal and external, both subliminal and direct and in yo’ face. Re-framing is something you must master in order to even just deal with girls effectively with out wanting to take the first pointy object and stick it into your eyes. For if you fall into girls frames, the least frustrating part is not getting laid by them, the most being the loss of all sanity and good common sense. It’s like taking acid and walking through a house of horrors in a carnival, not a good idea unless you like messing with your mind so much you may throw yourself into a comatose state ne’er to return. Thinking positive, having irrational self confidence, etc are all things you need to get girls, and to get a lot of them. Thinking negatively does absolutely nothing for you in life, and most importantly in getting laid and/or keeping a girl. For one girls are always beating up on themselves, their self image is in constant flux from over <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2019/11/25/5-ways-to-boost-your-self-esteem/">inflated ego</a> in the stratosphere to not measuring up to the hotter babes in the restaurant and feeling fat and useless. <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Spain-dating-service.html?gender=male">They need a man</a> to stay positive because they by their natures are essentially bipolar humans. Yeah it’s hormones, we know. We all know the benefits of this attitude and the positive results, but can it have a downside? Can there be risks if unchecked? Is there the possibility of megalomania? Of course there is, there are downsides to everything in life. For one thing, going completely over the top makes you seem inauthentic and a try hard – one who is actually insecure and over compensating this with overt chest pumping and boasting. A man untrained in the crimson arts may take this irrational self-confidence to signify an ego that is too big and too much for ladies to take. Girls like cocksure, cocky and funny, and confident men – they don’t like braggarts and blow-hards, they don’t like men who have to consistently reaffirm their confidence.</p>
<h2><strong>The Balance Between Positivity and Reality</strong></h2>
<p>Positive thinking all the time can also lead you into dangerous situations. Going after a girl with a ‘roided out jealous boyfriend coming back from the washroom, is not a good situation, and no matter how you spin it, fighting over a girl is never something men of value should be doing. My point is, irrational self-confidence, reframing things positively, and always thinking positively should not over ride your reality base. Some say we are capable of anything if we erase our limited beliefs, but that’s the kind of delusional thinking that can make you believe you can get away with murder or jump off a tall building because you believe you can fly. It’s just simply not wise. Irrational self-confidence isn’t about pretending you’re someone you’re not, it’s about not giving a shit about how others think about you, and regardless of how you think others may think of you, you are confident and positive above your current standards. Thinking positively and believing you are the shit, must be combined with a keen sense of social mastery, and emotional mastery that many beginners simply lack. Beta’s who begin to adopt this mindset may feel the power coursing through their veins for the first time. But when adopting a positive outlook on life, about themselves and about single girls, they will have a harder time adjusting to the long-term application of this confidence and outlook. Their highs will come crashing down with the undeniable reality that they simply can’t <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Spain-dating-service.html?gender=female">get any singlr girl they want</a>. They fail to realize that the positive thinking, the irrational self-confidence, the re-framing are tools to manage the negativity that life throws at you, to not give a fuck about pointless feedback that does nothing for you but make you doubt yourself – however, general good critical feedback is a must, if you want to learn and grow, and this can be in direct conflict with the washing over of positivity and illusions.</p>
<h2><strong>Using Positivity as a Tool, Not a Guarantee</strong></h2>
<p>Again, emotional mastery, social mastery are key in determining what feed back you can take from a situation. <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/09/21/how-to-be-more-confident-and-have-tight-inner-game/">Thinking positively</a>, reframing, and irrational self-confidence is there to plow through the traps that people set to get you off your dating game and reduce your power. If you are on a date, and it doesn’t go well, if you walk around thinking positively about everything how are you supposed to look at what you may have f’d up during the interaction? How can you improve? Because I don’t care who you are, if you keep getting negative results eventually reality will slap you in the face, and you will find yourself wondering why things aren’t working out for you when you took the magic pill of re-framing, positivity and irrational self-confidence. Reality doesn’t care what you believe in, it exists regardless. Positivity and thinking of possibilities is only that, to open all the possibilities that are available to you, to give you the best shot at reaching them, but it does not ensure that you will win all the time, it does not guarantee that you will get every girl you want. No matter how tight your dating game is, if you approach a girl who isn’t interested, you’re wasting your time if you keep at it. This power of positivity should be categorized more appropriately as: don’t take things so fucking serious, or stop thinking negatively about yourself. Some suggestible people may be missing the points to this positive thinking thing. It’s simply just a tool to help you, but it can be dangerous. Lots of oneitis victims for example, sit around and really believe that the girl they are in love with, loves them back, or they’ll get her back, or that she’ll notice them… and of course we all know that doesn’t happen. Obsession usually has an element of belief and positivity to it – it’s also very delusional. So understand irrational self-confidence and positivity before you go off and don’t give a shit. Because the odd time, you really should give a shit.</p>
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